Maturity is Self-Understanding

[Dear viewers, this is an anecdote entirely formed by my friend, my brother, Ram Pandya. This is an anecdote posted on his behalf and he is the credit holder. Enjoy reading!]

MATURITY-If you Google the meaning of this simple eight letter word, it would show- “a state of being fully developed physically.” But give a thought about it, does this meaning satisfy the word “maturity” only by the virtue of physical growth? The question is modestly rhetorical. Maturity cannot be only defined on the basis of a person’s physical growth. It’s a jointure of physical as well as mental growth of a person. There’s a popular saying which goes like this- “growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional”. People often grow up physically, but they tend to abstain their mind from adapting the mature mental changes.

Exactly that was the scenario with Ritu. Ritu was a happy go lucky sweet charming girl in her mid teens. AH! The sweet sixteen!! She was a girl who could charm anyone with her cheerful smile. Even an angry person would melt like an ice-cream seeing her cheerful attitude towards life. She had everything in her life, bright in academics, aspirations of becoming a doctor, loyal and lovely friends, caring parents. But Ritu’s perception towards her life was rather unripe. She used to take things for granted. Although having being bright and promising in academics, she wasn’t too keen in achieving her goals. She used to have a lot of distractions. Apart from this she always thought that her parents over-caring behavior and certain restrictions on her were curtailing her from being independent. She always used to complain about this. Gradually she started to develop a feeling of hatred towards her parents. Although her parents tried to perceive her with love and affection, she didn’t give heed to them. She always argued with everyone. She felt that everyone except her was wrong. Her friends comprehended her number of times that she should stop behaving in such a childish manner. But least she cared of.

Maturity is an extremely subtle characteristic. It’s not about saying big things, it’s about understanding small things. Scars fade with time. And the ones that never go away, well, they build character, maturity, caution.

For you, success. For people, it can be luck!

“The hustle reaped him his success

In his happiness of success, he was so indulged

He forgot to focus in his consistency

That is why his success is still assumed as his luck!”

Before burning the ignition to this very ‘contagious’ topic, I would first like to have a word with you all. You all may be at some or other positions right now; student, professor, doctor engineer and so on. You all, and even me had once a dream even now we have, a dream, a goal that resists you from sleep. I request you to utilize this moment in imagining yourself at that pinnacle where success kisses your feet. Feels amazing by just imagining, eh? What, then? Have you planned or even gave a thought after being successful? No? This is the mistake you must always be careful of. But a sigh of relief for you, you are not the only one with this; Purvesh was the one who stood in this category. He was successful, but his success was “converted” into luck by the society.

His muscular body that perfectly took shape was so formed by football, his dedication. He, since his childhood was a big fan of football. Bicycle kick, 360, round the world, rainbow and much more were the tricks he was able to perform so well, the viewer could hardly get their eyes off him. Was it his luck or something else, not known, but something stopped him from achieving that platform, despite of him trying his best.

Lady luck strikes at least once in a lifetime to all and it was such a day for him when he was selected in the national team of football. 1^st match, 1^st half and he scored 2 goals. The aftermath of the match was a win for the team and he, in his debut match itself was announced as the ‘player of the match’.

Success, what he dreamed of was in his hands. Crowd applauded, celebrations, wishes, fame, money- he achieved all he dreamt of. The time was ticking and his consistency was being tested. He partied much, celebrated to a good extent, spent his green bucks on luxuries and even boozed a lot to celebrate. Time for practice but he was least bothered as he was in a misconception as he thought that he no longer needed practice to be a good player, he was already a pro.

‘Pride had a great fall!’ His performance was a disaster in his consecutive match, and he was booed by the audience. His name and fame was crushed in a day. Worse still, the mouths spoke his first success as his luck and not his hard-work. His crush was strong enough to crush even his over-confidence which made him realize where he took a slip.

Take a look above where I mentioned this topic to be ‘contagious’. Contagious, because we are inspired by many people too easily to be successful, we get n number of books and websites where we are told ways to be successful but hardly any which can tell us how to be consistent after the success. You succeeded? Celebrate, enjoy, and feel happy. But start again. Continue your hustle. Let not your success be converted into your luck.

EXAM- Easy and Xtraordinary Application of Mind

“An aroma of happiness he breathed
A wave of joy embraced him
A sudden tornado of exams appeared before him
Violent enough to subside all his courage.”

An exam season- a phrase strong enough to scare the freak out of students now-a-days. Let me ask you something. By hearing about exams, don’t you co-relate it with tension? Burden? That is where we all take a slip.

Kalpana too had become a victim of this slip. Kalpana who can be given the metaphor of ‘a silent killer’ was a scholar, in fact a topper. She topped almost every year in her university exams. It is from the public’s eye that every scholar’s life is too happening. Well, in case of Kalpana, even her silhouette wasn’t aware of the tension she used to carry.

I know what is running in your mind- why would a topper worry about exams? The answer is the fear of failure, the fear to lose her reputation and the fear to repeat the exam. Even if you have the fears like Kalpana did, you need to change your perspective towards exams, my friend.

If explained in a sentence, exams are nothing but a “creative” way to represent your imagination. Yes, creative. How?

All that works in your exams is your imagination. You mull, you brush up your brains with the information given in the questions. If your imagination matches the criteria of the questions, it means you’ve hit the correct imagination. If not, you may fail. But, but, but! That’s actually good because not only you will get an extra chance to give exam again but also you can upgrade your imagination power. So beneficial!

Thinking of the marks, now? Oh, they hold no power. Whether you fail or succeed, no one is ever going to ask your marks. So just keep them aside.

Enjoy your exams. It is not actually a test. It is a way to increase your creativity, your imagination, no matter if the exam is technical or non-technical. If you succeed, you have all the imagination you need. If not, you can upgrade by next exam. After all, exams are a part of your educational career. They are something that ignite your knowledge, not end it!

Dilemmatic Quotes

[I would like to thank my friend Devanshi Sharma who gave me such a unique topic to write on]

Have you ever come across a situation where you need to get motivated by some quotes? But the quotes you are familiar with leave you in a dilemma ‘coz they both then to divert in opposite direction.

Considering an example, there is a quote, “Try and try till you succeed in achieving what you wish for!” It motivates you to be passionate after your goals. Cool! The quote that contradicts this one is, “Never rush. You’ll achieve only those things that are meant for you, not beyond that.” A mumbo-jumbo of quotes!

Talking about such confusion, there are n numbers of pairs of such quotes that contradict each other. In such situation, what you need to do is simple follow the one which stays on the positive side; the one that can give you a positive result.

If the above example is supposed, we first need to follow the quote that say, “Try and try till you succeed in achieving your goals.” You need to put your heat and soul to hustle for your aim. Try; push yourself, never quit too easily after a trying for few times. Success doesn’t come so easily. If you hustle for it, and if it gives you even a small amount of progress, that you can notice, it is meant for you if it serves you and if you are comfortable for it.
But, even after the hardcore attempts to achieve what you want, if you don’t perform well, if you do not give your best and if it doesn’t supports you, you have to be smart enough to understand it is not meant for you. You can’t just brag about it everywhere saying it is your passion when you can’t even be an amateur at it.

Whenever such situations arise, where you have to choose between any two, opt for the one you think will give you a positive feedback, not just choose any one at fate’s wish.

The Despaired Hope

All the cries that he heard
All the fears that he blurred
Pushed him way to his dream
All the actions from his words

Not a dread in his eyes
Had the guts to jump to fly
Didn’t find a perfect moment for that
He made the moment to be right

He won the medals of failure
From the dream to him, so dear
Still he clung to it, so tight
His goal to him was such a lure

His zeal so much crisp
All his love was so much deep
A way ahead, a smile he showed
In spite of so much slip

He got a raise, his glow so bright
He stood in luminous light
But the bubbles of bliss
Not too strong to make him glide

Wasted sweat, invested time
All his hard work at his prime
A ray of hope he expected
His hope too weak to shine

His heart disgraced
His thoughts misplaced
The goodness of failures
His dreams embraced

His goals, still for him a dope
A ray on despaired hope
Still ignites somewhere in him
He still wants THAT one enormous lope!

1 reason to cry but 1000 more to SMILE!

It takes love and affection to make a house, a home. Mom-dad, brother-sister, and husband-wife: all residing with love amongst them make up a home. One can say that they are the actual foundation of home but what if one of the pillars gets demolished? It is quite obvious of one to predict that the home will get collapsed. But what if an extra support is provided!

It feels quite broken when a person loses a loved one and that too a mother and this hard luck struck Jaimin.

Coming from a middle class family, Jaimin lost the blessing of his mother’s love at quite a young age. He then stayed with his father and his step mom. His father and his grandfather were the only people with whom he shared a good bond but his grandfather too was freed from his sins. All his feelings with was his father.

‘Step-Mom’- by hearing the word itself, a bitter truth hits our mind that most of the step-mom-child relations are not amicable.

What made Jaimin grow stronger was his own self. He never let his misery dominate him. He was one of the toppers of his batch. He had good friends, enjoyed hangouts with them, but as soon as he stepped into his house, dark clouds would encircle him. The way in which his step-mom behaved with him was completely inappreciable. Considering one of the inhuman acts of her, she had once told Jaimin to return all the expenses she made after him after he started earning.
No doubt there came a point where he was completely broken down, but he was too strong to give up. Holding up his courage, Jaimin never let grief dominate his soul.

Well, on the contrary to his sad life at his home, he was blessed with an amazing friend circle in his college. He was in a relationship with a girl. She always supported him in his darkest hours and so did his friends. She did all things to make Jaimin happy.

On a day so gloomy, he lost courage and shared his grief with his girlfriend. He shed tears and was emotionally broken down. His girlfriend supported him much but still, he was suppressed by negativity.

He decided to bloom. He thought that he would get attacked by grief along if he kept himself vulnerable to it. He counted his blessings instead of his hardships. He said to himself that he had a caring father, a loving girlfriend and supportive friends. How could he let all this happiness from so many people let go by grief from just one person!

What made him drive from grief to happiness? What attitude he thought of possessing to make himself positive? The answer is his perspective. What many of us do is count on negative moments instead of cherishing the blissful ones.

Many of us are blessed with almost all things- parents, friends, yet we cry over small problems we face in our day-to-day lives. Just imagine what would happen if you faced the problems Jaimin faced.

If Jaimin, in spite of grieves, could make the most of his life, then any normal human is capable of being a unique masterpiece if he is determined. You, reading this are even capable of being a masterpiece. It is not important to consider what you lost, rather focus on what you have and make the most of it!